On forgiveness
Forgiveness means reinstating the relationship. If there are rules, conditions, caveats, lines drawn in the sand, careful hedging to protect oneself from being hurt again,, that is not forgiveness.
Real forgiveness is total and unconditional, and doesn’t try to protect itself from being hurt again.
Jesus on the cross is the perfect example of forgiveness because he takes all the pain of the broken relationship on himself, without taking revenge.